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Subject:		Re: Re: How to get mom to back off
Name:		Lisa
Date Posted:		Dec 4, 07 - 6:32 AM
Email:		rathernotsay@nospam.com
Message:		I don't really know if there is a neat little box or what that box is named, but I would say that she honestly believes in these "illnesses" and that they give some sort of meaning or purpose. As long as she's not hurting anyone with it I don't really care, but the repeated attempts to make me actively affirm her delusions end in frustration. It sounds horrible, but I basically approach her like they say you should approach a toddler - engage when she's acting well, step away and ignore her when she steps over the line. It worked for a while, and she's genuniely pleasant to be with most of the time, but sometimes she just digs in and won't let it go. This seems to get worse over the holidays. I don't like treating my mom like a toddler. I don't like reminding her that every test she's ever taken or forced on me has been negative. I understand that the holidays can trigger all sorts of emotions that could cause this. I wonder if it's a win-win for her. If I play along, she's validated. If I don't, it's more proof that she's misunderstood and oppressed. As long as she keeps getting something positive out of it, she'll keep doing it. How do I get it to stop?
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Re: Re: Re: How to get mom to back off by Dr. F · Dec 4, 07 - 6:49 AM Re: Re: Re: How to get mom to back off by WhiteWolf01 · Jul 28, 08 - 11:33 PM

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