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Subject:		Re: BroketheCycle
Name:		BrokeTheCycle
Date Posted:		Jun 22, 06 - 5:07 PM
IP Address:		24.197.180.150
Email:		brkncycle@yahoo.com
Message:		Thanks Marcia! I just felt that some women need to know that it C A N be done. I struggled, I cried, I feared...but those emotions are what made me stronger and become myself again. I know the kids and I have a long healing road ahead of us and it still hurts sometimes because of the emotions that I felt while I was married and fearing the worst. I am by NO means trying to say to anyone that this was an easy thing for me to do. The last words the puke said to me was..."I will have another woman in my bed within 3 days, No man will EVER want you because you are used up and UGLY". Those words stuck in my head for about 6 months. I put an alarm system on the place I was renting, had nightmares everynight then I found I got some relief in talking to a piece of paper with my pen. I have been to HELL and back but Hell didn't win this time. My son fears that he will turn out just like his dad and I tell him "it isn't in your blood, YOU make the choice to either leave the abuse in the PAST (where I would like it to stay) or to bring it to the future with you and use it as an excuse"... we have had many family talks and let me tell you....THOSE helped. The kids and I would sit down once a week at the table and discuss things that were happening. I let them vent to me, cry to me, ask me why...It is called SELF Assurance. I don't want my kids to doubt themselves ... I want them to thrive in life. It is hard sometimes with them being teenagers and all but we work thru it. My daughter still seeks approval from her father (when he calls every six months or so) but my son has made his own choice of not wishing to speak to him. I refuse to name call. The past is the past...but our future is bright and happy. I have ONE major rule in my house now a days... NO HITTING!! No matter what! I have taught my kids that there are other ways to deal with stress and anger. It's called communication!! It has been a tough road even with my bf of 5 years, the kids try to push him to see if he will treat them like their father did and they have tried to push him away...but he has embraced them and talked to them and he treats them like his own. Ladies, if you are being abused but you can not come to terms with actually saying the word, it is time to talk to a friend, time to seek safety and time to MOVE ON. It isn't easy, it isn't fun...but in the end you will be happier... I know I am. If anyone feels the need to talk to just ask advice...please feel free to email me. If it can be done to you, I have been thru it. I hope you all lead a healthy happy life and THANK YOU for letting me vent!!! Sincerely, BrokeTheCycle (btw I am 33yrs old, my kids are 12 & 14 now) I wish you the best!
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Re: Re: BroketheCycle by Marcia Duning · Jun 22, 06 - 6:37 PM Re: Re: Re: BroketheCycle by BrokeTheCycle · Jun 26, 06 - 8:10 PM Re: Re: Re: Re: BroketheCycle by Marcia Duning · Jun 27, 06 - 3:21 AM Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: BroketheCycle by IceDream · Jun 27, 06 - 9:10 AM Re: Re: Re: Re: BroketheCycle by Marcia Duning · Jul 4, 06 - 11:46 AM

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